marriage

Tug of War

Tug of War

If you want your relationship to last, you DON'T always have to be right. It's like the game of tug of war. Whoever wins, loses. The person who loses looks up at the person holding the rope and resents the winner for making them fall. Instead, try to understand your partner. Why does he or she think that? Practice looking at things between you with an open mind and heart.

Relationship Life Therapy

Relationship Life Therapy

When trying my best to describe my work as a Relationship Life Therapist, trained by Terry Real (Terry Real book) I decided he does it best. So I’ve borrowed an excerpt from his newest book, “The New Rules of Marriage”   What I must add, emphatically taught by him in his training, is that his words and work apply to LGBTQ couples as well. An internationally acclaimed therapist and speaker, Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

[Video] Rethinking Infidelity - Esther Perel TED Talk

[Video] Rethinking Infidelity - Esther Perel TED Talk

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss.